Sometimes engaging your kids in a meaningful conversation seems impossible.

I remember asking my kids the same questions parents have asked their kids for years “What happened in school today? And I’d get the same answers kids have been giving their parents for years; a shoulder shrug as they mumble “Nothing.” As a Grandma, I didn’t want to make the same mistakes with my grands. So I did a little research to help on the internet to find a few more tools to use to engage them in conversation that helps me get to know their thoughts and feelings better.

Using some of these questions I’ve even had texting conversations with my oldest granddaughter. Sometimes my attempts fall short but other times I hit the jackpot and a natural conversation flows. I wanted to share some of the conversation starters I’ve used. Remember don’t judge your child’s answers just listen and reflect.

And most importantly share your answers too.



Tell me about the best thing that happened in your day.

Tell me something kind that you did for someone today?

How many stars would you give your lunch today?

Did you get a chance to help anyone today? How did you help?

Did anyone help you today?

Is there anything you wish you had done differently today?

Are you feeling sorry about anything that happened today?

What is one thing you are grateful for today?

How do you make yourself feel better when you feel frustrated or angry at school?

What about bored, tired or excited?

How can I pray for you today?

What was your favorite part of the Bible story you heard today? Why?

If the librarian said you could keep one book forever,

which one would you choose?

How would you change the world if you could?

Who is your best friend and why?